Happy marriage 3

Happy marriage 3.
Gen. 2:24, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” In one of the previous articles, I made the following statement, “Marriage was not an invention of man. Society did not, over time, establish the boundaries of what constitutes a successful one.” When discussing marriage and its ability to be happy long-term, it is crucial to understand that man was not the inventor. We didn’t make the rules, and we don’t get to change them. Society has changed its ideas of marriage, deeming to know more than the Creator, and the authorities have made some of those ideas law. But that does not mean that God is sitting in heaven saying, “Well done, My creation. There were some things I got wrong, so I am fortunate you are there to correct those shortcomings.” Not only is it insulting to God, but it is hazardous to one’s eternal destination.
The problem is that we have removed God’s view of marriage and replaced it with what the world thinks it should be. As with all things, once we do that, it leads to the moral degradation and ruin of those things. God is the gold standard for behavior, and the Bible is His manual for us to follow to achieve happiness here on earth. The downfall of dating, marriage, parenting, and the like began with thinking that we have a better system than God – a more inclusive, less critical, less demanding system that believes we all should do whatever we feel is right for us. Now, if ever there was a recipe for disaster, that is it. We are entirely incapable of keeping the “moral boat” afloat because we keep pouring the waters of egocentric desire, sin, and delusion into it.
God intended marriage to be a beautiful union between a man and a woman that lasts from when they make the vows until one should pass from this life. Matt. 19:4-6, “He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” It is meant to be an institution of love and devotion, honor and trust, and happiness that is derived from knowing God was the one who invented it for love and companionship.
Since I am a man, let me proceed mainly from that point of view. Man is the head of the marriage, and he would do well to remember the words of Pro. 5:15-20, “Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. Should your springs be scattered abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be for yourself alone, and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?” Having a godly marriage does not mean it will not have periods of difficulty, where the trials and temptations of life rise up to challenge it. Those times are as certain as the sun rising, but when it has the proper spiritual foundation, the union should become stronger and not weaker for them.
To be clear, many “Christian” marriages have also dissolved, so labeling it with that title does not guarantee its success. Calling it spiritual or godly will not prevent one or other partner from practicing infidelity given a chance and then succumbing to the temptation. Too many people think of “new flesh” as a trophy to boast about or use it as an escape from the reality of the difficulty of marriage to one individual. TBC

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